There are ALWAYS ways to isolate yourself when you’re with people.
I used to do it all the time.
And I catch myself still leaning that direction sometimes.
For instance, today I’ll be spending time with 3 dear ladies who’ve all been engaged. But not me.
Or maybe, for you, you’re spending time around people who all work in the same industry. But not you.
Or they all went to college. But not you.
Or they’ve all gone on a certain vacation. But not you.
Or they’ve all started a business. But not you.
Or they’re all parents. But not you.
Or they’re all gifted singers. But not you.
Any way you cut it, there will always be ways to separate yourself from the community you’re in, and find a way to label yourself as “the outsider”.
Don’t get me wrong – there’s a time and a place to isolate. And sometimes it’s necessary for health and growth.
BUT, isolation should NOT be a lifestyle. It should be temporary AND have a specific purpose, or it’s in grave danger of causing a more permanent “I don’t need anyone” attitude.
If you….
…have been used to doing things on your own
…are unwilling to ask for help because “people always let you down”
…can’t seem to connect with others because “no one understands you”
…are constantly anxious about relationships
or anything of the like…
Then you may be isolating, without calling it that.
Maybe you’re spending time with people, but if you’re not really letting people in, and getting to know them, then you may be isolating without recognizing it.
Don’t stay in isolation.
This is your loving nudge to get into community (for real), and stop hiding behind “I’m with people all the time” as a way to remain (secretly) isolated.
You’re worth getting to know, and you have value to add to others!