High standards. This is a touchy subject đŹ
People tell me âyour standards are way too highâ and I just let them talk.
Ladies, HAVE HIGH STANDARDS.
Do you think anything is too hard for the Lord?
You watch, and youâll see, HE WILL COME THROUGH.
Iâm confident in my high standards because Iâm confident in HIM đ
He’s exceedingly above and beyond, my Heavenly Father, and I trust that He will show off BIG TIME with me and my man! He will be worth every moment of the wait.
I have had many people reflect my high standards back to me, as if itâs a bad thing.
But Iâve had just as many, if not more, people reflect my high standards back to me as an inspiration to them. Iâve heard both âyou make me want to be a better womanâ and âyou make me want to be a better manâ âš
My hope is that youâll see them as an inspiration, but if youâd rather see them as âtoo highâ or âunobtainableâ thatâs your choice.
I believe youâll see my high standards exceeded though. If you think MY standards are high for myself, you should see what my Heavenly Fatherâs standards are đ€Ż He ainât gonna bring me no slouch!!
I reached out to a friend a couple of years ago when I saw a picture with a few of their buddies. One of the gentlemen stood out to me, and when I inquired about him, their response to me was âhe probably wouldnât be a good fit knowing your standards.â
And you know what? THANK GOD they know my standards!!
Do people know yours?
âHave you lowered them to âincrease the pool of optionsâ for dating?
âRaise them back up.
âHave you never set any to (hopefully) prevent yourself from being disappointed?
âSet them now.
âHave you judged people who have high standards because youâre not even seeing your low standards being met?
âMaybe theyâre not being met because theyâre not actually a good match for you, because youâre worthy of more.
âHave you never even thought about standards and you just sort of live by the âIâll take what I getâ approach?
âItâs time to live on purpose.
Will you âlose outâ on things because you have high standards? Yes. You absolutely will.
But is it really a âlossâ if youâre being protected from unnecessary pain?
When people think about you, and your standards, are they looking UP to find a match for you, or are they scraping the bottom of the barrel to bring you anyone because youâve made it clear that âas long as theyâre breathingâ thatâs good enough?
Even said in jest, realize that youâre speaking into your reality!
Listen, Iâve joked about it, too. But more and more Iâm aware of how sensitive the atmosphere is to my words, and how much I donât want just any man whoâs breathing. No.
Iâm believing forâŠ
đȘA mighty man.
đȘA man of valor.
đȘA man with integrity and character.
đȘA man with a great sense of humor.
đȘA man who loves the Lord above ALL else (even me).
đȘA man who is thoughtful.
đȘA man who prays.
đȘA man who is intelligent and interesting.
đȘA man who takes care of himself (spiritually, mentally, physically, etc.)
đȘA man who is confident AND humble.
đȘA man who leads well.
đȘA man who has kind eyes and a genuine smile.
If he happens to be 6â8â with broad shoulders and a square jawline, so be it. You wonât hear me complain about those bonuses đ But note that those are BONUSES. Thereâs a huge difference between high standards, and ridiculous requirements.
This man WILL exceed all of my high standards and Iâm so excited to be able to share our love story and help other women see the power of having high standards, sticking to them, and waiting patiently for Godâs perfect timing!
Mark my words.
Ladies, if you know your standards are being compromised, itâs time to raise âem back up!
High standards are a blessing, but they carry weight (which can feel like a burden/heaviness if not recognized as a blessing).
â High standards. Get some.
And let those who mock you keep on passing by, because they are the ones who will have to eat their words, not you. Let âem talk, and pray for them to release their bitterness đ
Make no apologies.
Let your life speak for itself, and be sure to give GOD the glory when it all comes to pass.